Mormon theology is pretty clear: But Mormon theology is also rich with opportunities for second chances. When my wife and I married, we were very different, but I found all the differences delightful. Vh65, your marriage is a black swan. I got married to a Mormon woman. The church can be a very cruel place for single people. The woman's role is to grow up, marry a worthy priesthood holder, and have a lot of kids. If you want to date a Mormon guy or girl, then the best way to meet singles is by visiting the Church. I feel as if I am a single parent.
It gives people a sense of purpose, while pressuring them to be 'good' by their book. After med school, after residency, after setting up a practice. I never give him shit for it. I've been in a similar situation before.
My relationship is the same way. We just celebrated our 11th wedding anniversary We have 5 children and like so many I feel alone most days. Ultimately there are no guarantees but I'd say it's worth a shot. Alot of TBM women won't even consider dating non members. I think you should start by having some very honest conversations. I wouldn't end a relationship with her, just as I wouldn't deny someone a job, or refuse to socialize with someone who is a Mormon. I told her that I want to only be friends.
But the idea of marrying my husband felt right from almost the get-go and, my patriarchal blessing made so much more sense. He is also a bit too neat. That of course does not mean all eternal marriages should have been entered into or will succeed. I would NOT want my daughter or son to marry a doctor. I know people should not get married if they can't accept each other as they are. Take issues as they arise, rather than throwing away what could be a good experience for you and her based off of what might happen. But God works in mysterious ways. He hadn't realized it was the same weekend as my birthday, or even that it was a big birthday - 30.
