These so-called flexisexuals say that although they are not gay or even bisexual, they enjoy flirting and kissing girls -- but they still enjoy having sex with men. One female senior at Hofstra University in New York said she is apt to turn to women when she's had too much to drink. The student, who declined to give her name for fear a future employer might Google her sexual escapades, is one of many young women who are more flexible in their attitudes about sex. Experts say they may be influenced by the growing visibility of same-sex couples and more open attitudes about sex in general. Pop culture, itself, seems to celebrate that flexibility in songs like Katie Perry's, "I Kissed a Girl [and I Liked It]," a song that year-old Alisha Garrison said "made girls be more free to do whatever they want. Flexisexual is also known as heteroflexible, pansexual or queer, all subtle variations that mean they are not closing any doors. Women say it has has more to do with their view of the world than their practice in the bedroom. Hollywood has its own examples: Lindsay Lohan, 24, who dated Samantha Ronson, denied she was a lesbian and "maybe" bisexual. She has since returned to men.
1. Vagina schmagina
The first time I slept with another girl, it was awkward as hell. But this is what I did one tipsy night my first year in college classic. As a girl, making out with a girl is easy — their lips are softer, the absence of stubble is refreshing, and mixing lip glosses all over your face is a tasty mess. The vagina, by sheer design, is just trickier than the penis. And the clitoris? Penises, on the other hand, are just And how could I have?
Studies Say Women are More Fluid in Their Sexuality
Yes, she's really bisexual. You wouldn't keep asking a straight woman you were dating if she was "really" straight, right? Yeah, it's just as weird for you to do that to a bisexual woman. And on top of annoying questions, she likely experiences a unique form of identity erasure. As a result, I often feel unseen.
The Frisky -- One of the first times I went on a date with a girl, she asked me, "Are you bi or gay? I then fell all over myself in an effort to explain to her that, although I was unsure about how to define my sexuality, I was definitely into girls, more so than I'm into guys. I am not and have never been bi-curious, bi for attention or bi only when men are around.